Real life examples have taught me that guys are just as susceptible to freaking out over nothing as a girl is expected to. Maybe this is not news to you.

I have freaked out about appearing too into a guy plenty of times (e.g. i sent out a facebook invitation - not a friendship request, an invitation to join the facebook network - to a guy i was looking up on facebook but didn't even really know..that..sucked.) I've probably sent some text or instant messages I shouldn't have. and just generally been "too emotional" when a few moments of deep breathing could have brought me back to rational thought and action. but what i've learned is. at the end of the day, oh well. I would have much rather appeared kinda crazy than stoic, and closed off. and incapable of feeling or expressing.

So yeah, guys worry about these things too..which I have learned just through talking to my guy friends. I tell them to shut up. calm down. Whatever you texted or whatever you suggested in your last conversation or .. however she reacted..and all these scenarios you keep playing out in your head? It's No Big Deal. but then isn't it always no big deal then? And why oh why is it so easy to give the advice, but not to live it out by oneself.

Is a guy freaking out over something (to do with love and like) endearing or a turn off? I can't decide, but I love you guys anyway.

In the meantime, have fun "not knowing" and "appearing lame and desperate" because pretty soon.. within ten years, I imagine, we'll all be paired off and settled down...and that kind of uncertainty will be a feeling of the past. Let's have some fun with this emotion.

Justine

Update: Upon further thought (I think a lot in the shower), I suppose a guy freaking out over how he appears to a girl he's interested in does not really characterize him as moody... so the connection I made there was wrong. That, however, does not mean that guys aren't also moody.

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