This idea came to me as I was waking up from a nap a few weeks ago when a lot of the shit around race and police brutality was going down.

So, here's what I'm thinking...

You guys know Family Feud, right? In case you don't, every weekday, Steve Harvey hosts the game show where two families --  typically one African-American family and one Caucasian American family -- compete to name the most popular responses to survey questions answered by 100 random Americans. It's a show my dad loves, and we often watch as a family.

The questions are typically about commonplace, universal experiences in life like "What does a big family need a lot of?", sometimes they are sexual in nature "What is the most difficult article of clothing to remove from a woman's body?"

But never are the questions hard-hitting, philosophical, or really controversial. It's a fun-loving family show after all.

The set up, though, is interesting to me and ripe for that level of discussion: a gregarious, comedic African-American male host asking a black middle class family and a white middle class family to name what they think a majority of Americans would say when asked about race in America.

If not on the show itself, this could be the premise for a really good SNL skit. How do I pitch this?

Anyway, it's not fully baked, clearly. I'll leave you with a recent clip from the show that addresses color, albeit superficially.

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(I want to remember all the fun little things from my week, and maybe this will help with SEO for brands as I am a consumer, after all.)

- the Sopranos, middle of season 2, if the violence is too much, I simply look away.

- Nat King Cole's voice singing any Christmas song

- breaking in my new Sam Edelman laced up booties

- discovering there's a Little Sheep Mongolian Hot Pot in SF, and eating there.

- watching (on TV) the Warriors extend their W streak to 14, that comeback against the Rockets was major. 

-  FaceTiming Jason for the first time overseas

- sending my first work email to really important folks, ie the Exec team

- cuddling with coops

- being able to do real pushups in barre

- another slowcookin' success: lamb shank with red peppers and feta cheese

- watching people ice skate in the middle of union square, a lot of couples, overconfident zippy 7 year olds, and one pair that was particularly heartwarming: two old men, the more mobile one was holding onto the less mobile one, slowly, patiently guiding him across the rink

- speaking with another truck driver who was very generous with his time and with his heart, he sang me a song he's been working on about life on the road, i blogged about it (below)

- lastly, having only positive stories from a hazy holiday party last week, including this:

<3 J

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Categorieslist, personal

I'm continuing to collect stories from truck drivers, and here's the latest...just a tidbit to keep things fresh.

I just got off the phone with Mark Smith, age 62, a man who goes by "Rain Drop" and who has been driving a truck since 1983. That's 31 years on the road. We talked for two hours. Me in San Francisco, him parked for the night, someplace in Virginia after doing some deliveries for Walmart.

About an hour and a half into our conversation, he shared a song he's been working on, about life on the road. You can't tell, but on the other end, I'm smiling big the whole time. A special and unexpected moment with a very wise man, I plan to speak to again soon.  (Apologies for the poor audio quality -- blame AT&T.)

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Categoriesaudio, people

One recent Friday morning on Caltrain, on my way to work, I find myself sitting behind an old man, probably in his late 60s. He's on his flip phone chatting with his buddy recounting the details of his night last night -- wherein he brings a lady home. His voice is loud, he is eager to tell the story. I can tell he is happy.

The audio clip and part of the transcription are below. I've bolded my favorite lines.

And we went back to the house and she says:

"Lou, I'm really not interested in the guy who does the tree trimming."
She says, "I'm here with you." and - um - that's it.

But you see, you see, but I didn't --  No. The guy shook my hand. 
and he said: "Can I have one of your cards? You do lots of a good things." 

and I remained cordial. But one thing which is a turn off to a woman if you act possessive if there's jealousy there.

and I just said "Hey, do you want to give me a run home. I was talking to a lot of other people there that knew me."

Anyway, the bottom line was, she came back to Palo Alto. We went over to the Togo's and got a small tuna sub and we went back to the house.
and she says "I can sleep in my car right now."

I said, "Look, i got a whole basement down here. Whatever. It's your call."

She says "You know, it might not be a bad thing to stay in a bed tonight, instead of.."

She had a hatchback thing, anyway, so she came in...
huh? hang on -- 

Sometimes where she is. No, she's not homeless. She's got a place over the hill um in the Santa Cruz area, but she's not all the way into Santa Cruz, but she's over the summit.

So she stayed and uh you know, we, I...yeah.

Anyway, she left this morning.

She sent me a text, I'll read it in a minute.

Anyway, she walked out, and she said "Hi guy with the computer!" and it was Jim, Jim and Cathy, the two that live in the back with the dog.

and so, I said "Drive safe. I'll talk to you later."

So she goes out the door, and Jim looks at me and gives me the high five sign. He says, "Lou, way to go!"

<and then there's more but it's a babbling mess, and I am too lazy to transcribe further>

My thoughts about this? 

He clearly has no sense of etiquette on public transportation. I guess older people still have wild nights out on the town. They still get butterflies, and that's cute. I didn't know Togo's was still around.

Authorjustine lee
Categoriesaudio, people